Top Tips For the Mother of the Bride

Photo courtesy of Caneel Bay Resort

Photo courtesy of Caneel Bay Resort

Congratulations, mother of the bride! You have such an exciting time ahead of you, as you help the bride and groom create the day of their dreams.

You’ve probably noticed that things are not quite the same for the mother of the bride as they were when you got married. Today’s planning team isn’t automatically the bride and her mom. You may be part of a larger team that includes the groom’s parents, or the bride and groom will be doing the majority of the planning on their own. So don’t go into this with huge expectations, or have your feelings hurt that you won’t be in charge of the cake, the flowers, the menu, the locations. Just look forward to meeting with the bride and groom to discuss how THEY’D like their team to work together. Here are some top tips to help you enjoy the wedding preparations, and make everything more special for your daughter.

* Make a promise to yourself, as a parent, that you’ll keep the wishes of the bride and groom paramount, no matter what. Since the wedding is such an important and emotional event, it’s easy to get revved up and want more of your ideas included, to ‘make things nice.’ You have no bad intentions, but you’d be surprised at how the bride may interpret your suggestions as bossing her around. So make it clear from the beginning: you want what they want for the wedding, and you’re there to help create it.

* Respond quickly and deliver completely when you’re asked to help with finding family addresses or other tasks. When you set a foundation at the start of being easy to work with, interested in their wishes, and responsible, you’ll likely be asked to do more.

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Momental Designs

* Let them know what you’d like to be involved with. They’re not mind-readers, so they may not know that it’s a dream of yours to go to cake tastings with them. A simple “I’d love to join you” is far better than insisting, or pouting when you hear they went last weekend.

* Let them know what your talents are. Since weddings are so expensive, couples are looking for ways to save money. If you have a talent for art or a flair for calligraphy, Web design or favor-making, they need to know about that. Again, let them make the decision.

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* Find ways to welcome the groom into the family. Get to know him better, if you haven’t already, and show your approval by including him in family dinners where it’s all about social time, not just wedding planning time.

* Be a stress-relief for the bride. Take her out for coffee or lunch, or to a day spa for manicures, and make it no-wedding-talk time to allow her to step away from wedding stress and nurture your relationship.

* Get your look together. A personal shopper at a department store can help you find a terrific gown for the wedding, as well as dresses for the rehearsal dinner and other events, and you get the same royal treatment as the bride. Personal shopper services are free at Bloomingdales and Lord and Taylor, among others…they’ll interview you for your style wishes and colors and sizes, and when you go in for your session, they have all of the outfits and accessories lined up for you.

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* Give meaningful gifts as well as practical ones from the registry. A framed photo of the bride as a little girl, together with a wonderful handwritten letter from you, is a fabulous gift on the morning of the wedding.

* Write a toast. Whether it’s for the rehearsal dinner or the morning-after breakfast, your words make a lasting memory. Or have the bride’s favorite song played for her.

* Keep your fears in line. Don’t be afraid of the change that’s coming to your family, particularly if the bride plans to move after she’s married. Have a plan to stay in touch via e-mail, Skype and visits, and welcome the good things these changes bring. I know, it’s tough to face the huge emotional changes that happen with a wedding, and this is the #1 thing that makes mothers act badly and hurts their relationships with their daughters (which causes the distancing they fear!). Just be honest with the bride and come up with a plan for the future.

* Embrace the in-laws. Find ways to include them in family holidays and dinners — the bride and groom will be sooo relieved if you make that a smooth transition and welcome their loved ones into your circle. You don’t have to be best friends. Just let the bride and groom know they’re welcome as family.

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Li-Lac Chocolates

* Never inject your guest list wishes, song wishes, menu wishes, etc. with force. This is not the time for that, even if you’re sure the etiquette rules are on your side. “You have to invite them, since you were a flowergirl at their wedding 20 years ago!” doesn’t fly in today’s wedding rules of the bride and groom choosing their guest list. They know the new etiquette rules, and unless it’s a glaring omission, a must, be gentle with your guidance.

*Don’t forget that you’ll likely get to plan the morning-after breakfast, or perhaps an engagement party of after-party just for your friends, so all of your fantastic ideas can be used for the party you host!

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* Think about renewing your wedding vows months after their wedding if you feel you want to plan a big party of your own. All of your great ideas the bride and groom aren’t open to…they might be better at YOUR party!

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Welcome, newly-engaged brides and grooms!

Sharon Naylor is the author of The Mother of the Bride Book and Mother of the Groom, plus 30 additional wedding books, www.sharonnaylor.net .

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Wedding Freebie By Request: The “How Well Do You Know the Groom?” Bridal Shower Game Printable

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Marilyn W. responded to my post ‘The NEW ‘How Well Do You Know the Bride?’ Game’ asking if I knew of any ‘How Well Do You Know the GROOM?’ quiz printables, so I decided to write one up for her! (And for you, if you’d like to use this free printable at your party!)

I’m all about giving bridal shower games a new twist, and since so many co-ed bridal showers are happening now (why should the guys miss out on the food and fun?) a ‘how well do you know the groom?’ game is definitely a unique twist. Just copy and print out this game sheet:

We love bridal shower games! When they’re fresh, fun and unlike the games that all of the guests have played a dozen times before, that is! That’s why we’re making over traditional bridal shower games, and we’re making it ultra-easy on you to copy and print out our updated bridal shower game cards!

And we invite you to post your suggested questions in the Comments section. Your question could be asked at millions of bridal showers across the country!

How Well Do You Know the Groom?

  1. What was the groom’s very first favorite Halloween costume from when he was a little boy? ________________________________________________________________________
  2. What was the groom’s first-ever pet? You get extra points if you know the pet’s name (but guess anyway, just for kicks!) _________________________________________________
  3. What was the groom’s first nickname? ____________________________________
  4. Who was the groom’s childhood hero? ____________________________________
  5. Who was the groom’s first-ever celebrity crush? ________________________
  6. Who was the groom’s first-ever celebrity meeting? (Pro athletes after a game, etc.) ______________________________________________________________________
  7. What was the first concert the groom ever attended? _____________________
  8. Which concert would the groom be embarrassed to admit he attended? _________________________________________________________________
  9. What was the groom’s first job? _______________________________________
  10. What was the color of the groom’s first car? _____________________________
  11. What was the first date the groom ever planned for the bride? _____________________
  12. What was the first thing the groom ever cooked for the bride? _____________________
  13. What was the first movie the groom and bride ever saw together? ________________________________________________________________________
  14. If the groom could choose one actor to portray him in a movie about his life, who would he pick? ____________________________________________________________________
  15. If the BRIDE could choose one actor to portray the groom in a movie about HER life, who would she pick? _________________________________________________________________
  16. If the groom could win a walk-on role on any television show, which show would it be? _____________________________________________________________________
  17. What was the first thing the bride and groom booked for their wedding? _____________________________________________________________________
  18. Which song would the groom dedicate to the bride at their wedding? _____________________________________________________________________
  19. Name one of the locations the groom considered as the honeymoon spot? _____________________________________________________________________
  20. Name the groom’s favorite cake flavor: _____________________________________
  21. Name the groom’s drink: _________________________________________________
  22. Which song would the groom sign at karaoke, if sober? _________________________
  23. Which song would the groom sing at karaoke, if drunk? _________________________________________________________________
  24. If the groom could invite any celebrity guest to the wedding, who would he invite? __________________________________________________________________
  25. Who was the first one to say, ‘I Love You?’ The bride or the groom? __________

Get more ideas from my Ultimate Bridal Shower Idea Book:

http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Bridal-Shower-Idea-Book-ebook/dp/B00C0AM1HS/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1434478636&sr=8-1&keywords=bridal+shower+idea+book&pebp=1434478639027&perid=1RH1F2M6Y1FW52G6T4HS

Freebie! Bridal Shower Game Makeover: Wedding Day Predictions

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‘People will always remember how you made them feel.’ – Maya Angelou

The great Dr. Maya Angelou wasn’t talking about bridal shower games, but her wisdom rings true for bridal shower games that make people feel out-of-the-loop, like they have a great big spotlight on them for being the one person who doesn’t know where the bride and groom met, or what kind of ice cream the bride loves best.

Not every guest at the bridal shower knows her like a best friend would – think future sister-in-law from across the country, or great aunts who know the bride’s mother best of all. So a bridal shower game that hinges on knowing the bride best could very well make some guests hate bridal shower games even more than they already do. Especially if their scorecards or answers are read out loud.

(Is there anything worse than a roomful of people egging you on to read your wrong answers out loud, or booing if you don’t want to? Ugh!)

So to avoid any discomfort for your bridal shower guests, it might be best to offer a game that has no wrong answers, and doesn’t require knowing the bride’s dating history.

Like predictions about the wedding. Now, closest friends will know about her venue, and maybe even her wedding gown designer, but overall, guests can let their imaginations soar, and write down their predictions about the wedding plans that can be read aloud on a volunteer basis, with the rest tucked away for the bride to read later.

And this game works well at a co-ed bridal shower, too. Everyone gets to use their humor, coming up with silly or out-there predictions, and of course super-sweet predictions like ‘…and this will be the best wedding ever!’

Here is your bridal shower game makeover:

Wedding Day Predictions:

What time will the bride wake up on the morning of the wedding?

What time will the groom wake up on the morning of the wedding?

Who will the bride text first on the morning of the wedding?

What will that text say?

Who will the groom text first on the morning of the wedding?

What will that text say?

Which bridesmaid will be the first to arrive at the bride’s house?

Which bridesmaid will be the first dressed?

The bride’s gown – sexy or elegant?

What silly photo pose will the photographer ask the bride and her bridesmaids to do during their pre-wedding photo shoot?

What color will the bride’s manicure be?

Will the groom be able to tie his own bowtie, or will he need help from someone else?

Will there be a crying baby at the ceremony?

Which kinds of musicians will play at the ceremony?

The first kiss: proper or passionate? (A more proper way to say ‘tongue or no tongue.’)

What will guests shower the bride and groom with after the ceremony is done?

What will be the couple’s first dance song?

Name a dish that will be on the cocktail party menu.

What will the signature drink be? And what’s the story behind it?

What will the wedding cake flavor(s) be?

Name one song that’s on the couple’s Do Not Play list for their deejay or band?

What’s the song that gets everyone on the dance floor?

Who’s going to be the first to be cut off at the bar for having had too much to drink/getting sloppy?

Which guests can you see hooking up at the wedding? And dating afterward?

Name the couple’s wedding hahtag:

 

Use some, use all, or scrap these and make up some of your own, remembering to keep it proper for mixed company. Parents are likely to play, so you don’t want to predict anything improper.

Have fun! Print up card on pretty paper, use decorative hole punches, and skip the glitter!

Get more bridal shower game ideas from my Kindle book The Ultimate Bridal Shower Idea Book.

A Dazzling Jewelry Event at Braunschweiger Jewelers

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Step into Spring with Sparkle!
Braunschweiger Jewelers, a 5th generation, family-owned jewelry store with two New Jersey locations, will be hosting its exclusive “Sparkle in Spring” event on April 28th from 5-8 p.m. at their New Providence store located in The Village Shopping Center, 1260 Springfield Avenue, New Providence, NJ.
New collections will be debuting and on display from designers including David Yurman, Roberto Coin, Marco Bicego, Elle, Monica Rich Kosann and Belle Etoile.
Attendees will enjoy light fare & wine, preferred customer pricing and the first 100 guests will receive a gift bag. 
 Additionally, when customers fill out their jewelry “wish list” during the event, they will be entered to win a $1,000 gift card to Braunschweiger Jewelers. The winner will be selected and announced the day following the event.  
For more information, please visit braunshweiger.com. 
About Braunschweiger Jewelers
Braunschweiger Jewelers is well-known for personally selecting styles with modern yet timeless design, impeccable use of exquisite colored gemstones and diamonds, and distinctive details. Our elite collections cater to a savvy clientele that seeks renowned designers like Marco Bicego and John Hardy, premier bridal selections and unique estate pieces.  Our philosophy is to offer the highest quality and superior craftsmanship while staying up-to-date with the newest trends. Braunschweiger Jewelers has been providing unparalleled service and selection since the 1930s. We are regularly featured in top magazines and have received “Best of” awards from NJ Bride (2012), NJ Monthly (2011-12), The Knot (2013), Best of Morris Essex (2015) and The Daily Record (2010-11). For information and store locations, visit www.braunschweiger.com.
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Beautiful Ellis Island Wedding Details

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Ellis Island is a gorgeous setting for a NYC wedding! With those magnificent views of the city skyline, right-on-the-water placement that puts you right in front of a breathtaking sunset over the golden ripples of water, open-air venues for outdoor wedding celebrations, outdoor wedding cocktail parties, even outdoor concerts under starry skies, AND the gorgeous architecture of the buildings. It’s a great twist on an Island Wedding, a destination wedding of sorts since your guests have to take a scenic ferry ride to get to Ellis Island, and it’s an award-winning eco-friendly event venue for green weddings! Talk about the best of everything!

Speaking of the best, Ellis Island has been home to lavish, luxury weddings planned by some of the most elite wedding coordinators in New York City and from across the country. Here are some images from an Ellis Island Wedding planned by celebrity event planner, wedding luminary and author Jung Lee of Fete NY.

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Find out more information about Ellis Island Weddings, and visit our Ellis Island Weddings Pinterest page

Did your Wedding Resort Really Do That Wedding?

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Sometimes I see some really dubious stuff out there in wedding world, and this one has my blood boiling.

While most bloggers and social media managers are entirely honorable and professional, sometimes there’s a bad egg out there…one that can wreck your wedding. Case in point: a destination wedding showcased on a resort’s blog, with the resort claiming this wedding to be the work of their own wedding team. Except it wasn’t. A wedding coordinator designed the gorgeous florals and tablescapes, the wedding planner’s team did a ton of work, and the wedding reception wasn’t at that resort at all. The ceremony was.

The blogger just said that it was all the resort’s work.

It’s easy to be fooled by such misguided marketing, and wind up with a wedding planning team that’s not half as talented as the experts who styled the wedding you saw.

So, here’s what I suggest: when you see a real wedding featured on a blog for any resort or venue, just Google the couple’s first names and ‘wedding’ and the location, and you’ll likely see blog posts done by the wedding planner, photographer, cake baker and all the other pros who worked that wedding. That’s where you’re going to see that the ceremony was at that resort, but the reception took place at a nearby restaurant. Those stunning tablescape photos you saw, and the background view, the elegance, the lighting — you’ll then know if it’s something that resort did, or can do at all.

Sorry to add an extra step to your research, but this one is important. Sometimes you have to cut into what you see, to see what’s really going on inside.

The Bride’s Guide to Freebies – Fabulous Big-Money Sweeptakes at Better Homes and Gardens and Martha Stewart

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In my book The Bride’s Guide to Freebies, I’ve shared a ton of my top freebie-finding secrets for weddings, helping you avoid Mistake Freebies and lock into the ones that really add to your wedding day (and boost your wedding budget further!)

When this book first came out, we offered a wedding freebies newsletter, which grew too big too quickly for us to maintain well (and there weren’t always great freebies out there!) So we moved our wedding freebies info to my blog to make it easier for everyone to cash in!

In my book, I recommended the Better Homes and Gardens sweepstakes, which often included bigtime cash prizes, and this has gotten even better for you lately, since they switched their online sweepstakes entries into UNLIMITED entry for most of their big-money prizes. We’re talking $50,000 (which could pay for your whole wedding,) $25,000 (which, again, could pay for your whole wedding,) $20,000 (there’s the wedding gown of your dreams!) and more. (You’ll need to register with BHG, of course, and each entry requires you to click on a super-short video to make sure you’re not a bot. With these and any other online sweepstakes, always read the rules and fine print before you click!)

So, check it out, including the Martha Stewart sweepstakes and other sister magazines’ sweepstakes. We wish you good luck with your entries (and much fun with your winnings!)