Fab Find! Wedding Reading: [i carry your heart with me(i carry it in] by e.e. cummings

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[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in]

By E. E. Cummings 1894–1962

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
                                                      i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

“[i carry your heart with me(i carry it in]” Copyright 1952, © 1980, 1991 by the Trustees for the E. E. Cummings Trust, from Complete Poems: 1904-1962 by E. E. Cummings, edited by George J. Firmage. Used by permission of Liveright Publishing Corporation.

Beautiful. Just beautiful. If it sounds familiar, it’s the poem read by Cameron Diaz’s character Maggie to her sister Rose in the movie In Her Shoes, and it brought me to tears today as it does every time I see that wedding scene. I hope you love it, too, and perhaps you’ll use it in your wedding readings, or vows, or just a love letter to your most treasured one.

Source: Complete Poems: 1904-1962 (Liveright Publishing Corporation, 1991)

Wedding Vow Wording: Try These Words as an Alternative to ‘Love, Honor and Cherish’

Your wedding vow wording is the absolute heart of your wedding ceremony, the entire reason you’re standing before one another on your big day. So you’ve got to get the words right. That cause you a lot of wedding stress, because — after all — how do you put how you feel about your fiance, and what it means to promise your love and life to him, into words? What are the actual things you’re going to promise each other?

Cherish is a lovely word. It’s just not one we use every day. When was the last time you said, “I am going to cherish you!” to your groom?

Love…it’s a keeper.

Honor…of course you will.

What else are you going to promise in your wedding vows? I have some wonderful words for you right here…




Blend (as in, blend our hopes and dreams)

Champion (as in, champion your causes and your goals)




Create (as in, create a wonderful home together)

Dedicate (as in dedicate myself to you and all your wishes, goals and dreams)

Defend (s in defend you from anything that could steal one iota of your happiness)

Embrace (as in, embrace you and embrace your family)


Enjoy (Is there any sweeter compliment than ‘I enjoy you so much!”)



Like (This too is the greatest of compliments: “I not only love you, I also like you so much!”)

Partner (The verb form, partnering on projects and goals)


Provide (Not just the money form or material things, but provide all the safety, comfort and warmth you’ll ever want in your lifetime)



Support (It’s a happy marriage when you have each other’s support in everything you do)

Thank (as in, thank you every day for the blessings of sharing your life with mine)



In addition to these keywords, speak from the heart:

  • “I promise to spend every day making you feel as special as you have made me feel all these years.”

Include the family:

  • “I promise to love and support (spouse’s child’s name) with all my heart, just as I do for you.”
  • “It’s another great gift of having you by my side that I get to share our life embraced by your family, and I vow to embrace them and support their goals just as I do for my own family.”

It’s okay to be funny, promising to warm up your feet before bed, not to put corn in the shepherd’s pie, cut the grilled cheese sandwiches in triangles and other super-cute little things that show you not only know but care about the little things each other likes.

Your vows will be captured on video forever, and remembered by you forever – even if not word-for-word. So print up your vows and make them a pretty keepsake you’ll revisit on future anniversaries, and maybe you’ll renew your vows someday, adding extra promises and extra laughs to your partnership.

Get more weding vows inspiration in my book:

Your Special Wedding Vows Kindle Edition

Your Special Wedding Vows Nook Edition

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    Meet me at the lavish Wedding Salon event in NYC!

    What are you doing on Monday, November 15th? Come to the most glamorous, celebrity-attended wedding show of the year, where I will be appearing as Caneel Bay’s wedding spokesperson! So many big names will be there — Colin Cowie, Sylvia Weinstock, Michelle Rago, and on and on. Here’s a list of the participating companies and experts (so far!):

    The Wedding Salon – New York, NY

    Show date: Monday November 15, 2010
    Show hours: 4 PM to 9 PM
    Venue: Manhattan Center Studios
    Address: 311 West 34th Street
    New York, NY 10001


    »Register For This Event


    Alcor Viaggi
    American Airlines
    Amy Weschsler, MD
    Anne Koplik Designs
    Arabella Photo
    Ariston Florist
    Aruba Tourism Authority
    Atelier Isabey
    Atlantis Paradise Island/One&Only Ocean Club, Bahamas
    Bimini Bay Resort
    Blue Glass Photography
    Bridal Reflections
    Caneel Bay, A Rosewood Resort
    Carciofi Designs
    Carol Hannah
    Cinderella Bridez
    Colin Cowie Lifestyle
    Consejo Turistico de San Miguel de Allende
    Crystal Springs Resort
    Cystal Bloom Weddings
    David Beahm Design
    David Burton Photography
    Disney’s Fairy Tale Weddings
    East Wind Caterers, Inn & Spa
    Élan Artists
    Elegantly Iced
    Elon Michelle Couture
    Fideicomiso de Promocion Turistica de la Riviera Maya
    Flowers by Topaz
    Gansevoort Miami Beach Hotel/STK & The One Group
    Gruber Photographers
    Grupo Presidente InterContinental
    Harrah’s Entertainment Atlantic City
    Ideal Ensembles LLC
    Island Style Weddings
    Jax Photography
    John Dunn
    John Malino Music
    Joseph Lin Photography
    Josh Wong Photography

    This is THE event of the season, so don’t miss it! See you there!


    Jumby Bay, A Rosewood Resort
    Katie Fischer Design
    Kellari Taverna
    Ketubah Graphia
    KohGenDo Cosmetics
    Landino Photo Image Studio
    Laser Cosmetica
    Lauren Renée Design
    Le Taha’a Island Resort & Spa
    Loli Events
    Magnolia Photo Booth
    Mark Tamayo
    Metamorphosis, You…Only Better!
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    Michelle Rago
    Milani Cosmetics
    Misty Enright Photography
    Nandana Private Resort
    New Yorks Best Musicians, Photo and Video
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    Ostasz Studio
    Palace Resorts
    Palermo’s Bakery
    Pedro Avendano Photography
    Prouna USA Kiyasa Corporation
    Rafael’s Pastry
    Relais & Chateaux
    Rosewood Little Dix Bay
    Rue de Flore Bridal
    Shawn Rabideau Events & Design
    Stortz Lighting
    Sugar Flower Cake Shop
    Sylvia Weinstock Cakes
    The Card Lady
    The Knot
    The Registry @ Bloomingdale’s
    twobirds Bridesmaid
    Unique Vacations / Sandals Resorts
    Villa Foscarini Cornaro
    Windsong Photography
    Yves Saint Laurent at Bergdorf Goodman

    “I Still Do!” Renewing Your Wedding Vows

    It’s summer, and that means wedding season! While everyone loves the cake, the great food, the dancing, the chance to dress up in Gucci or Chanel and wow their partners, it’s the *relationship* that is at the center of the day. It means the world to the wedding couple, and if you’re married, you may be thinking about your own wedding day and your own relationship right now…perhaps moreso with each wedding you attend.

    Just look at Tori & Dean…they planned the wedding for the guncles and then another wedding for Tori’s friend…and they really started to focus on how career and parenthood and motorcycles were putting some distance between them. Long story short, they put their relationship first, and they renewed their wedding vows, bringing their kids into the celebration.

    Heidi Klum and Seal renew their vows every year, and this year had all of their guests dressing up like brides and grooms.

    As fun as these celebrity vow renewals are, with their parties and the kids and the cameras and the themes, I’m thinking about a wonderful couple who renewed their vows alone on a mountaintop, in the quiet of nature, just wanting to express their *gratitude* for one another. That’s it. No themes. No cake. No Chanel.

    They’re among the couples featured in my book Renewing Your Wedding Vows, and their story will inspire you if you wish to skip the big, fancy wedding re-do and just walk outside today to renew your vows under the tree in your front yard. I wish I could tell you that that couple was married for 75 years. They loved each other enough to be married that long. But Craig passed away recently, leaving Susanne without him now…comforted by the memories of their annual vow renewals and the words of love they took the time to speak to one another.

    So it doesn’t matter how you do it. It doesn’t matter if you book the Plaza or climb a mountain to be alone. Just say the words. I have tons of inspiration here in my book, lots of quotes and ideas on how you can make Renewing Your Vows a meaningful part of your relationship, a refresher each year.

    And if you’re not yet married, tell your parents and your married friends about it, about how simple it is to renew your vows and just ‘have a moment’ together, or re-do the wedding they never got to have — maybe a couple’s getaway for a tropical vow renewal, or a trip to Vegas…or a walk out to that tree in the front yard. With nobody looking on. And an Entenman’s cupcake to celebrate.